What is fear and how do I deal with it?
Fear is a primal feeling that arises within us when our physical survival is threatened. It is a feeling that is designed to move us to "fight or flight" in order to support our survival. It has played a large part in the survival of the species.
But as we became more sophisticated and moved more and more into the mind and its world of thought and emotion, fear entered inappropriately into that world. The fight or flight response started to occur whenever we felt emotionally threatened. If someone criticizes, insults or rejects us, the ego mistakes that for a threat to our survival and we go into a flight or fight response, but that response has become disguised and distorted in so many ways that we are unaware of it. It also often occurs at an unconscious level.
Fear also comes into play around future imaginings. It is possible to create intense fear by imagining what might happen in the future. The more present you are, the less fear will arise in your life, because you are only responding to what is actually happening now.
If in the moment, your physical survival is at risk, you will not think about it. You will not become incapacitated with fear. You will simply respond with fight or flight. And it is quite rare that this situation will arise in your life.
There is another kind of fear that I have observed in people who have worked with me. When people are unwilling to feel their feelings fully, whether those feelings are of hurt, anger or rage, they disconnect from themselves and this creates a kind of fear within them. It often manifests as anxiety or panic. When they allow themselves to feel the feelings fully, the fear or anxiety disappears.
So what are you to do about fear? The obvious answer is to be more present in your life and fear will rarely arise. Also, be sure to be honest and authentic and feel your feelings fully and express your feelings responsibility and fear will not be an issue for you.