Question 39
I seem to have difficulty maintaining presence when I am in love relationships. What can one do to be present in relationship?
Answer
It is very common to lose yourself in love relationships. The very notion of relationship implies time. It tends to unconsciously engage us in the notion of love lasting into the future, which really conjures up all the dysfunctional aspects of relationships from the past. If you want to remain present within a relationship, you have to make being present your first priority. Both you and your partner have to make being present the foundation of your relationship. If you love someone, it is very easy to get lost in the object of your love. It is important to know that if you love someone it is because you are love. Don't fixate so much on your partner that you forget to love the trees and the sky and the flowers. And other people. At the deepest level, love is impersonal. If you go so far into personal love that you disconnect from the impersonal dimension of love, then you will lose yourself and you will lose your capacity to be present.
Relationship is a mirror. It brings to you the opportunity to look into the mirror and identify all the areas within yourself where you are still unconscious, and all the ways you lose yourself in others. If you know how to look into the mirror, you will eventually awaken.
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